Sunday, January 11, 2009
I learned a lot from a lot of trying to think about nothing...
Thursday, January 1, 2009
Can we move on yet?

Thursday, September 4, 2008
First chakra continuing education
The only way to make a permanent shift in your chakras is to practice working with them. When you do a chakra exercise it can bring you an experience & a temporary change, but in order to change your life and your functioning a little more is required. Things you can do to balance your first chakra on a regular basis aren't hard and some of them are actually pretty fun.There are tons of grounding/first chakra exercises you can do, such as simply reading about it, doing a cleanse, going outside and lying on the ground, visualization exercises, cleaning your house, and pretty much anything that puts you in your body (feeling that you are present & feeling what your body feels like in the moment).
For me, some of the continuing practices I'm doing include:
- Mediation -meditation practice is one of the most fundamental grounding exercises, also all your other chakras gain energy from meditation so it's a great thing to continue (and also I think the most important grounding exercise, if I had to just pick one, this would be it) -meditation brings presence into your day all day long

- Getting a bike and biking everywhere possible -this brings you closer to the environment, puts you in your body & makes you healthier, and makes you have to know where you're going
- Avoiding using TomTom (my GPS system) as much as possible- it helps me know the area I live in and be present
- Learning more about Portland & current events (local, environmental, political)
- Yoga
- Exercising
- Listening to my body
- Cooking delicious new meals
- Being outside (going new places to hike/hiking alone)
- Practicing presence (focusing on the person talking, when you eat you should be eating, not doing something else in addition to that, when you drive you should be driving, not paying attention to the cd you're listening to or a person on the cell phone-just giving all your attention to what you're doing at that moment)
- Energetic grounding exercises (setting up energetic boundaries between me and the other people I'm around, not being effected by their state of mind, not taking on negative emotions or pain from people I give massages to-I personally send energy down through my feet to ground myself, sometimes I picture tree roots going into the earth, sometimes I picture/feel the color red, sometimes I surround myself with a white energy "egg" that keeps me separate, sometimes I pray for help with it, sometimes I visualize an anchor going down into the ground, sometimes I just think of my first chakra and it activates it---everyone does something different, play around with different things and see what works for you, lots of people use their breath)
- Being aware of your misconceptions and working through them
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
Misconceptions
Everyone is born into a family, or tribal system that raises them. Your family raises you to the best of their ability, which includes what they believe is best for you, and emerges you in their value/belief systems before you even know how to talk. This includes superstitions, misconceptions, and expectations that many people don't question if they even agree with before they go about living their lives by these rules and in many cases passing them onto their children as well.Your first chakra and how you live your life is effected by this, so it's a good idea to take a look at what misconceptions you were brought up with. You may be spending a lot of time stressing over something that you don't believe to be true, yet you were raised this way and it may even be causing you a great deal of anxiety, possibly limiting your potential.
As far as superstitions go for me, I can't really think of any right now that I would like to work on. I remember I used to not step on cracks sometimes on the way to the bus stop when I was younger, but it was more of a hopping game than a "my mom's back might break" game.
I do, however, have plenty of misconceptions to work out.- I always used to think I should be married by the time I was a certain age (this age started out as 25, then was 28 or so, then was 30) or I was going to be alone forever. This fear made me depressed sometimes, and also kept me from being single most of the time. I don't regret any of the relationships I was in and feel like I learned a lot from them, however, I think it would have been a great learning experience for me to be single for more than a month sometime between the ages of 17 and 27. I've learned a lot about myself from being single the majority of the past year, and I don't feel the same way about marriage(or a life partnership) anymore. Sometimes I do feel like I would really love to settle down now and move into a different experience as far as living with someone goes, and I do think I'm ready to do that at the moment, but I don't have a timeline in the back of my head like I did before. It is something I need to continue to work on, however.
- Having kids- I think my thoughts on having kids are healthy, so I don't need to work on that at the moment, but they weren't always like this & I think it's interesting. I grew up thinking, "when I have kids, blahblahblah," because that's just what you do. You grow up, you get married, you have kids-horray! It wasn't until I went to my yoga teacher training that I really thought about why I wanted to have kids. There are so many unhealthy reasons why people have kids: -Because that's what you do, you get married and have kids -Our marriage kinda sucks, so kids will bring us closer together -We're bored -I really need to take care of something so I can feel good about myself -I really hate how that person over there is raising their child and I can do it better -All my friends have kids, and cool stories to tell about them and pictures (they sure are cute!) -I wasn't good at sports but my child will be -I really need to be remembered -It's my responsibility to pass the family genes along -I need someone that will have to love me back, and if they don't at least they're dependent on me -etc. I just find it really interesting that I didn't even question myself until this point was brought up in class. I did start out with the "of course I'll have kids, that's what everyone does" mentality when I was younger and didn't really comprehend what all that entailed. When I figured out what all it entailed, I still didn't consciously question it, which is a great example of how I wasn't aware that how I was raised could have easily dictated whether I had kids or not, without me thinking much about it at all! (don't worry-I'm never getting these stick figure car decals)

- I'm terrified of getting divorced, this comes from a combination of how I was brought up (meaning, you just don't get divorced, once you're married you're married and that's it-which did also effect my fear of settling for someone in a relationship), and then my parents actually getting divorced. One of the things my dad said when he told me he was divorcing my mom was that when he met her he knew that they would get married, she was the one and they would be together for the rest of their lives. I don't really remember the rest of that conversation full of all the "reasons" he was divorcing my mom, because that line really scared me (especially since to me, never hearing my parents fight, he just all the sudden without warning up and left to be with someone else). I've been working on this one for awhile now, and I know it's effected my relationships. I do have a much healthier perspective of marriage/divorce/my parent's situation now and I'm definitely not effected by it now how I was before, but still something to work on.
- How much money I need to make and always having to accomplish something are also good learning experiences for me. I was brought up with the very realistic idea that I needed to make $200,000 per year (that number came from my head sometime in elementary school, not someone else's, but the idea that I needed to make a whole whole lot of money came from my Dad and the culture I was brought up in). I was around money a lot and raised to believe that if you're not accomplishing something (money/success oriented) you were completely lazy and you need to work harder. So, what I did with that was a mixture of following my passions/having fun and trying to make a whole lot of money at the same time, without breaking any of my core values. Therefore, for the past 10 years or so I've been the hardest working least paid person I know, totally burning out my adrenal glands, not taking care of myself. I think part of this is really great. I love the work ethic that I was brought up with, but somehow it didn't work out in a healthy way. I love that I was working really hard and doing things that I loved, but it was really bad to not know what to do with myself if I had an extra hour in the day and I didn't have to eat my food and change my clothes in the car while driving on the way to my next job. I definitely have a perfectionist complex when it comes to work, and at times I've felt really guilty for having an afternoon when I wasn't working. I'm of course working on this (moving to Portland and doing more things for my health and myself have helped a lot) and I think this may be one of the more difficult ones for me to get over...
- I also have a misconception about what I should look like, physically, but I've already addressed that & am working on it.
- My grandparents from both sides of the family are a little racist, not terribly so, and they're getting better at not saying things around the grandchildren along those lines because they know we don't like it. I had a huge fight with them (and a couple of them leading up to the huge one) when I was dating Bryan & I actually think that helped a lot. So, I don't think I'm extremely influenced by that (my parents don't hold the same views as my grandparents, which helped in that not influencing me). I do have some generalizations/misconceptions about certain groups though: I don't like New Jersey, Florida, or Texas very much, when people say they're from one of these states sometimes I'm like "eh." I obviously don't say that out loud and I don't use it against them or refuse to talk to them, sometimes I'll think "wow, this person is pretty cool for being from New Jersey" but it is a thought that goes through my head sometimes. The stereotype for NJ and FL comes from experiences I've had there, and for Texas, just from the super conservative stereotype (which is silly because Austin is extremely liberal). I also get stereotypical thoughts in mind with people who say they're super conservative. I went around saying I was conservative for a little while and people didn't stereotype me, and so I'm a super hypocrite (besides the fact that I'm not educated enough in all the political issues and I get along with most people regardless of what their political standpoint is). I have the generalization that vegans aren't very healthy, but they could actually be eating the food that makes them feel the best, in which case I should be using some of them as healthy examples. There are many more generalizations that I have, and I've been really focusing on trying not to generalize, because it's a really crappy thing to do. Being present is actually one of the best ways I've found to deal with this, because you're always focusing on the person and not up in your head-which is how interactions with people always should be regardless.
- Religious beliefs are a major influence on you when you're growing up. I was brought up Catholic. My spiritual beliefs don't seem to come from Catholicism, however, if I wasn't brought up Catholic, who knows if I would have questioned my beliefs so much and figured out where I stand?
Thursday, August 28, 2008
Living & Working

I've always taken things for granted like knowing where the mall is, where I can get a quick healthy meal, & having a place to live, or at least having my mom's place relatively close by so I know if I don't have a place to live all of the sudden I have somewhere to go. Being in a new place with a very different culture and trying to make that work smoothly (with all the other life stuff going on like breaking up with my boyfriend with no support group of friends nearby) is pretty interesting & I've become a much stronger and more grounded person because of it.
I sometimes get this strange feeling of "oh crap, if I die no one will know for two weeks" and "wow, I'm all alone in this place and really all there really is is me, so I better be damn happy with myself cause that's the only person here I truly know, or really anywhere for that matter." It's totally different than being on vacation, which I've done alone a bit. Vacation is a break from life with little worries and responsibilities, but moving and starting your life somewhere completely different is reality and you don't have anything comfortable and safe to go back to.
This may seem like an easy thing for some people to do, people move all the time, however it was huge for me. I'm a very social person with the people I know and I depend on my friend's support a lot. I'm a big believer in that it doesn't really matter where you are, it matters what you do and who you're sharing it with. Moving to Portland without knowing anyone took me way out of my comfort zone and helped me get to know myself a lot better. This was definitely one of the best learning experiences I've had so far and it changed me in a lot of ways. I've gotten used to the fact that everything changes all the time, well, more used to that fact-it's still hard when it does sometimes, but I feel like I'm much better at adapting to change.
As far as my living situation goes, I love it. Portland is awesome & is perfect for me at the moment (it's not too big-it has a small town mentality, but it's also a city, it's very liberal, it's very holistic, it has great energy, the weather is awesome, there are beautiful mountains around, the beach is nearby, it's bike friendly & has great public transportation, it's environmentally progressive, it's into local healthy produce stuff and sustainability (if you're going to be anywhere in 2012 when the world starts to end, this is a great place to be), people look you in the eye when they talk to you, it's friendly, there's a great music scene, there's good beer, the plants and trees that grow here are incredible, etc.).
It's really crazy for me to not be able to afford whatever I want to buy right now. I typically don't overspend and I'm pretty good with money management, so I was used to being able to buy whatever I wanted to in Virginia. I was also used to knowing I would get a paycheck & being able to find plenty of private massage clients or picking something else up quickly that would pay me (with my connections to people). I was able to go out to eat everyday, buy lots of gifts for people, pay other people's rent if they couldn't, and fly to Houston for one night if I wanted to the next day. Now I'm trying to figure out how to pay my rent and if I can afford a rain jacket. Needless to say this is all very humbling and gets me to look at my lifestyle and what's important to me, I've made a lot of changes in this aspect and I also think it's good to have an experience when I'm struggling a bit. I've learned to appreciate somethings more and it's interesting because it was always so weird to me when I heard people talking about how they couldn't afford to go out to eat or couldn't afford the gas to go somewhere, now that's not so foreign anymore.
Obviously, at the moment, my work doesn't provide a good foundation for me in this aspect. My job satisfaction and relating to my livelihood would be great if there was work there right now, there just aren't people coming in to get massages, therefore I don't have any work. I'm currently working on remedying this situation. I love giving massages, but there are none to give, and quite honestly I feel like I'm not helping people enough by giving them massages (this second statement I'll address more in a few days with my second chakra stuff).
I put in my notice the other day at Elements, where I was renting a room for massage. I started to really not like the work environment there, I just got a strange energetic feeling from it and although my coworkers were nice, I didn't feel like I fit in there. It was also too far of a drive for someone living in Portland and I wasn't getting business (which may have something to do with not feeling like I fit in there). Quiting jobs is actually way more difficult for me than getting them, I don't like feeling like I let people down and I typically have way too much loyalty to the places I work, even when it's not benefiting me to work there any longer. Although I know it's better for me, of course it's uncomfortable and so it's tough. However, it is an awesome learning experience.
So, still working on the job thing, but it's going in the right direction, and I'm learning a lot-horray!
Sunday, August 24, 2008
The black widow is ready to be contained!
Our beer is now giving off one CO2 bubble about every 90 seconds, signifying that the yeast have been happily fermenting the beer and have converted about 99% of the sugar in the mixture into alcohol. They're starting to calm down because there's hardly any sugar left. This means that the beer is safe to put into bottles. If we put the beer into the bottles too soon the yeast will still ferment the beer, which will release CO2 that has no where to go and cause the bottles to explode.
The set up is much less complicated this time, but just as important.
We also prepped the last ingredient we need to add to the beer before it's finished, a little bit of sugar water. This small amount of sugar is added to the beer just before bottling so the yeast can carbonate the beer while it's in the bottle, we won't fill the bottles up too high, to avoid bursting them when this happens.
We started by transferring the beer into a bucket to filter out the left over sediment from the fermentation process. We also put the sugar mixture at the bottom of the tub so the beer mixed evenly with it.
After racking the beer into the bucket (and leaving behind a bunch of gooey sediment), we lined the beer bottles up into old kitty litter containers to catch any beer that would spill over in the bottling process. We then siphoned the beer from the tub to the bottles, moving very quickly-the beer comes out fast!
Then all we had to do was clean off the bottles, cap them(see my super strong arm muscles!), and label the caps. I personally labeled each cap with a very artistically done cartoon spider, we wouldn't want to mix this beer up with an IPA or some other hoppy beer, how disappointing would that be?
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Your body is what you use to do everything you do
Yoga is an excellent way to energetically tone your body (it's also a great way to build strength, flexibility, balance, and mind/body connection). The traditional yoga asanas (or poses) were created by monks as a way to prepare the body for mediation. Each asana directs the energy flow of your body in different ways, balancing out the chakras, strengthening them, removing energetic blockages, toning your chakras and your body so that energy flows most efficiently through you. Regular yoga practice using various asanas is beneficial on many levels (I recommend looking at this link). If you ever feel like you're out of your body, go to a yoga class or practice a pose or two on your own.
A few of the many yoga asanas that are particularly good for the first chakra and grounding:- Padmasana-Lotus Pose
- Tadasana- Mountain Pose
- Baddha Konasana-Bound Angle
- Utkatasana- Chair Pose
- Virabhadasana 1,2,3- Warrior 1, Warrior 2, and Warrior 3
- Any Balancing pose (Vrikshasana-Tree, Garudasana-Eagle, Ardha Chandrasana-Half Moon, etc.)
- Bikram Yoga Series
What you eat and how you eat effects how well you function. I know this sounds like a silly thing to mention, but so many people don't realize that what they eat is actually effecting their health. The cells in your body need nutrients to function, the only way they get those nutrients is from what you feed them, and they then go about fueling your body and creating new cells with whatever it is that you gave them. Therefore, paying attention to what you eat is very important.I'm not going to go into nutrition at this moment, but basically, try to avoid processed items, eat mostly vegetables, meat, and whole grains. Eat a variety of foods. This is something I'm working on this month, I tend to eat the foods that make me feel good (which is a great thing to do), but then I tend to only eat them and not a variety of other foods that might possibly make me feel good too but I just don't know about it yet. I've also gotten to the point where most of the time I eat I'm doing so just to eat, not for the taste of the food but because I need to eat. I still do like eating, but sometimes I get a little bored with it and it should be more enjoyable.
I love Thai Curry, it's something I eat because it tastes good. So, I learned how to make traditional Thai food at home. Instead of going to the store and picking up pre-made curry paste, we picked up the seeds needed to make the curry powder, added ginger and garlic and made a lovely curry paste. Because we were making it at home I could add as much or as little (as little in my case) of the chilies, making it the perfect level of spiciness for my taste. Making the curry was much more involved than this, making it a wonderful first chakra task, breaking up the process into it's elemental pieces from the beginning (opposed to getting a plate of food at a restaurant or using pre-made curry sauce, powder, or paste).
My favorite website for recipes is www.epicurious.com, and of course some of the gluten-free cooking websites that are out there.
It's also a good idea to make sure you're eating enough calories during the day. Sometimes when I get really busy I forget to make time to eat & I'll just eat a number of little snacks through the day to get me through. It's important to make sure you give yourself enough calories or your body will go into starvation mode and not be able to give you the energy you need to function, not to mention it'll start storing whatever food you do eat as fat and reserve it because it thinks you are starving (then it goes about eating your muscle tissue for energy). Also, if you're not eating enough protein you may not have enough energy. This website is great for letting you know if you're eating enough calories and what percentage of your calories are coming from proteins, carbs, and fats. I discovered a lot about my eating habits when I actually kept track of them for a short time.
- Meat
- Protein
- Root Vegetables
- Nuts
- Whole Grains
- Herbal Teas such as Pau d' Arco, Rooibos, Hibiscus, Raspberry Leaf, Uva Ursi
Exercise- everyone should do this. The key to good exercise is to do a variety of things. First off you don't want to get bored with the exercise you're doing, and also if you only do one type of exercise you just become good at that one thing. Your body gets used to the movements you make to perform that activity and then your muscles just aren't challenged anymore-they stop growing. There are tons of bikers in Portland, lots of them bike to work everyday, however, some of them still aren't in great shape because they don't do anything else, they haven't become physically fit, they've just become awesome bikers. (This is something I'm working on at the moment as well, I do like to do the same things when I exercise, but I'm changing them up more and more now.)
Listen to your body-eat when you're hungry, rest when you're tired, don't try and do an insane amount of massages when your hands start to hurt.
Get enough sleep, sleeping is when your body repairs itself. I would go into this more, but right now I need to sleep...listen to your body...